We often have mixed emotions when posting those profiles. We feel guilt, remorse and shame over trusting so blindly and being taken advantage of. We feel angry and mad and we are determined to never let this happen again. We are sad, mad and angry all at the same time, and those emotions can turn you upside down even as you begin the road to recovery that is so much easier because he is no longer in your life.

You will be better later, you will lose the anger, and you will respond to and appreciate so much a great, wonderful guy in your life just because of this bad one you let go. Have high hopes for your future. You will find happiness because you deserve it. Post this bad guy and then let him go. You feel shame and sadness because you are normal; he does not feel guilt or shame or remorse or sadness because he is not normal, so don't worry one bit that you have hurt his feelings by posting him

Losing at love makes you stronger and wiser, so embrace your hurt and let it fill you up. It will be easier to let it go once you have felt it fully. You can make a decision to love everyone who ever passed through your life despite the disappointments they brought to yours.

You don't have to love their actions, but be determined to love life and all that it brings you. Ashton Kutcher said, "it's not how much you love when you love, it's how much you love when you hate." Going through this pain brings true love and real happiness closer to you; it is right around the corner. Love even though you are hating. You deserve the rewards of a rich and full life that is full of love despite the pain. -- Kerry L. Gray, kerry@loveawake.com